Related to passive-aggression as a cultural descriptor rather than an individual pathology. Fear of authority, chronic anger, bitterness, and the masochistic self-disempowerment of submission (see Fromm).

Much food for thought here.

nice is just a word It can be interprated different ways
theres the superficial niceness and there is genuine niceness ,just parts of the human tapestry
the motivation though is towards respecting others ,it just needs to be developed more in some people so they arent walked over etc.

Mmm... strange clip coming from you abailart. I remember you getting hurt when some unkind person posted an unkind comment on one of your clips. Tyranny of niceness? Nonsense! It's the lubricant for social interaction and I thank God for kind people. The alternative is a world of horror populated by the likes of the Yanceyducets and the Pkonfields of this world - brutal and cruel and heartless beyond belief.

Michellezm: Though tend to agree with you in principle, there is nothing more alienating than being surrounded by false nicety, and 'socially correct' behavior. Fear from emotional friction, drives most people to avoid trying to resolve their differences and disagreements with others. There is a wide enough spectrum of behaviors between kindness and sheer cruelty to allow a more direct and sincere communication between human beings. But perhaps I am just dreaming...

Interesting clip!

I agree with Michellezm. Being nice or civil in our society is not necessarily disempowering oneself, but it allows you to disagree without the necessity of hurting someone else. What does it accomplish to hurt others feelings? It only makes other people feel defensive and I feel like this is the reason a lot of people have left Clipmarks. Our society would be an ailing society without civility and kindness.

Thought provoking find - I feel that being nice takes more inner strength and power. It is not necessarily weak to be able to "take the high road" or to "turn the other cheek." Those that do, may not be respected by some and it is oftentimes a difficult road to take. To me that takes an enormous amount of strength and self confidence.

In all interactions applying the "Golden Rule" is the route I choose to follow.

Not always easy, but it does make it much much easier to look at my face in the mirror each day.

Working as a route salesman, I found being 'so honest and nice it hurts' the best defence against shitheads. That and not wasting my time with them.
Most people are congenial enough when not feeling threatened - and those are the best company.
Is that dishonest ? Right. Try grumbling your way through life and watch your social contact disappear.

I think the article desrves looking at. It contextualises 'niceness' and relates its definition to a psychotherapeutic
focus. I shall be reading the book with the same title quite soon. At this stage, suffice it to say that the concepts of courtesy, kindness and respect are not being demolished here! Indeed, the author's approach seems to me to be marked by a deep respect for such qualities.

It is an excellent article. It even makes me want to review my childhood inclination for candor : something my next sibling used to differentiate himself from me. That said, Web of Trust has a 'Privacy Warning' up on the site. I have found occasional false alarms before, however.http://www.mywot.com/en/scorecard/www.psychotherapy.net

NICE- When the soul shows the body who is the BOSS. A dying commodity in the world as we know it. That is why I do it, it is contagious, maybe some will rub off.

To me being nice is having common respect for one another while being authentic. One does not need to be a coward, but you don't have to bash the other person's brains out when there's a disagreement either. It doesn't mean that there's never harsh words, it means that your never violent or disrespectful toward the other.

nice is a word used to describe something that pleases someone
but you cant please all the time