 abailart says: <<<Yes, in my burrow, in my solitary thoughts, I dream my dreams. But they are the dreams of "the undeveloped heart." I dwell in my burrow with a gallery of images, the images of a plethora of people: the monstrous and the good -- some unbelievably good. They remain phantoms, however. I lack the ability to care enough about another person; I suffer from a deficiency of the capacity for love, joy, and empathy to occupy myself with real people. The passageways of my burrow are redolent of indifference: the benign but vaguely repellent odor of emotional emptiness.>>> That's one smart squirrel! I am haunted by this article, abailart I have read it three times. Perhaps I recognise too much of myself - not that I have SPD, but the extreme introversion and reclusiveness resonates deeply in me. I was always under the impression that Schizoids were incapable of needing people. I did not realise that it is painful for them to be excluded. I always thought that if one had to pick and choose a mental illness SPD would be the best of the bunch. But it would appear though they may not want interaction with others on an intellectual level, they cannot escape the basic human emotional need for love and companionship. (Clipmarks is my outlet from my burrow by the way) Thank you for the clip @michelle. I hope you may see your interest in the piece, like my reason for clipping it, goes beyond the idea of a medical diagnosis. The word 'schizoid' does appear in many diagnoses but it has a much wider import. A crucial aspect is the etrnal problem of how the individual relates to self and others, so, for instance the philosospher Sartre made the comment 'Hell is other people' while the [oet Rimbaud declared 'I is an other", and Kafka's story of the mole also deals with an age-old theme. I hope you like books because I am going to recommend one! It is called 'The Divided Self' by the late R.D. Laing who was a psychiatrist interested in the schizoid state as an existential issue. It is... Thank you for your response, abailart. And thank you for those book references - I am most appreciative and look forwards to the read. I can't begin to explain how much reading these posts has helped me. I'm not sure if this is the right place to have looked, or to be commenting, but I'm in love with a schizoid. I know him well enough to know that he is one and it hurts me so badly knowing that it'd be best if I just left him alone (or so I feel it would be). I have gone about our "relationship" all wrong. I guess you can call us acquaintances because he has bluntly told me "he's not looking for friends, " and I believe it. Thank you so much for these posts (and comments). If you can offer any advice, I would appreciate it. @alicesmith. Sorry you have problems. My own interest in the schizoid state is not medical or therapeutic (I am utterly unqualified in either), but the wider uses of the term (see comment above). There is a bit of 'schizoid' in all of us if my reading of 'the divided self' mentioned above is correct. And without using the word, a great deal of art and literature, and some philosophy, deals with the split between, very crudely put, the split between the self we show the world and our interior world. It's in these areas my interest lies (see above), so sorry i can do no more than refer you to above. Hope it goes well for you. Thank you for your reply and the book recommendation. I will definitely be picking up a copy. @Alice. I've been looking on the internet and see they have many support groups for schizoids and their families. I was thinking that that forum could be very helpful to you in your quest to approach the unapproachable. I wish you well. |
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