 pedblan says: Just thought it might help some of you folks. I've found this hard, but important. 5. Drop your negative friends.I have way too many liberal acquaintences to follow this advice. I find the opposite is true but it may have something to do with my life experiences and general outlook. Misery loves company, but that is only true for the miserable, evidenced by the feeble-minded herd here at clipmarks. I think the real misery comes from relying on the negativity to have your own pitiful outlook and paranoia validated. ... Being with the miserable and unhappy is a strain. As a point of value, tolerating the discomfort is one of many tolerations of discomfort. Occasionally one needs refreshment, retreat or holiday but only to reflect and regain strength. I think if one is motivated only by personally feeling good, one will soon enter the ranks of the miserable and be grateful that there are those around who are stronger and able to support during difficult times. Interesting how different life experiences conduce us to distinct interpretations. When I first read it, I thought about those people who spend their time moaning not about life in general, in which case our presence in the group would be indeed necessary, but bitching about other people - this is quite funny, as the quote alludes, and, if you're smart enough, turns you brilliant in the eyes of others. However, it won't take time until you turn a paranoid, sarcastic, unfriendly person. I think if one is motivated only by personally feeling good, , one will soon enter the ranks of the miserableVery wise. It should be that we focus on doing good, not feeling good. Many times the things that makes us most happy are not the things that we always WANT to do. In other words the things that will give us the most happiness are sometimes the things that we are not always willing to do. Misery loves company, but that is only true for the miserable, I quite enjoy being a witness toHow sad that you would write something like that. You seem like such a mean spirited person, actually the kind of person who brings others down or tries t... "Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people." Eleanor Roosevelt I love being the brunt of so many discussions simply because I discuss my ideas and philosophies in light of so much lack of education, pitiful narcissism, and bitter negativity. Seldom does the occasion arise where I do not become the topic of discussion instead of my ideas and comments. I guess this was the "talent" to which skwirlinator refers. You should ask yourself where this negativity comes from, whether it is a sign, and what does it say about you. via abailart clip. You know, I think that if there is a hell Willie, and you end up there (not that I'm in charge or anything) for you it would be a small cell covered in mirrors. So you can see your desperate attention seeking self for all eternity. It really pathetic. As for the clip itself, makes sense. Hard advice to take, but true none the less. @ratiflar, since you say it's hard advice to take, sounds like you're the one looking in the mirror... nothing hard about dropping negative people... I can see them being acquaintances, but certainly not friends in the true definition of the word... unless of course one is one of the 'negative' people, in which case his/her friends can easily be negative. There's a thought... don't be negative... you then might not have to deal with negative 'friends'. I disagree. Distancing oneself from people you hang out with can be a bit hard, unless there's a major split. It depends of the meaning one confers to the word 'friends', naturally. In my opinion, what you take as 'friends' are actually 'intimate friends'. You certainly have a right to disagree, but that changes nothing. To each his own as they say, meaning you may be right for you, but certainly not for someone else. As our soon-to-be-elected or neglected leader stated - words have a meaning. So, if you go by his assertion - friend has a meaning. What you'd call 'intimate friend' - I'd call a spouse... I don't get 'intimate' with my friends... however, even though I know lots of people - few of them are 'friends' in my meaning of the word. Without getting too technical I'll just say that one needs to pay attention with whom (s)he becomes friends... .then it's a non-issue in terms of parting, because you wouldn't be parting with FRIENDS.... I made a mistake - the words 'intimate friends' should be read as 'good friends'. |
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