tips on becoming a better listener, part 1


	tips on becoming a better listener, part 1

anpl32

6-5-2007 8:07 PM

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communication, social skills, conversation, skills, seduction

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6-5-2007 10:23 PM

egoldstein

Silence: Become comfortable with silence in a helping relationship.

This is so key. I have often in been in conversations with people who are evidently uncomfortable with silent moments. I personally find the forced conversation more uncomfortable than the silence.

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  <li style="margin-left:16px;padding-left: 0px;"><STRONG>Genuinely interested</STRONG>: A successful listener is genuinely interested in what the other person has to say. If you don’t have time at the moment, offer to talk with the individual later…</LI>
  <li style="margin-left:16px;padding-left: 0px;"><STRONG>Silence</STRONG>: Become comfortable with silence in a helping relationship. Pauses can create valuable reflection time for the other person…</LI>
  <li style="margin-left:16px;padding-left: 0px;"><STRONG>Nonverbal messages</STRONG>: Be sure your nonverbal messages are congruent with your verbal ones. Unless cultural differences dictate otherwise, offer direct eye contact while the individual is talking. It helps establish trust and communicates interest. Leaning forward is also interpreted as an expression of concern and interest.</LI>
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  <P><STRONG>Tune out distractions.</STRONG></p> <P>Poor listeners are distracted by interruptions; good listeners tune them out and focus on the speaker and the message. It’s a discipline that lends itself to specific techniques for maintaining one’s focus. </p> </BLOCKQUOTE></blockquote></div><div style="margin: 0px 6px 6px 4px;"><table style="font-size: 11px;border-spacing: 0px;padding: 0px;" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" width="100%"><tr><td style="background:transparent;border-width:0px;padding:0px;">&nbsp;</td><td align="right" style="background:transparent;border-width:0px;padding:0px;width:107px" width="107"><a href="http://clipmarks.com/share/AA6D608B-2958-486F-8A03-7EDF773EDBB8/blog/" title="blog or email this clip"><img src="http://content9.clipmarks.com/images/c2b-foot.png" border="0" alt="blog it" width="107" height="17" style="border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;" /></a></td></tr></table></div></div>

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