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If women are raised being told…that:

-it is not okay to set solid and distinct boundaries and reinforce them immediately and dramatically when crossed (”mean bitch”)
-it is not okay to appear distraught or emotional (”crazy bitch”)
-it is not okay to make personal decisions that the adults or other peers in your life do not agree with, and it is not okay to refuse to explain those decisions to others (”stuck-up bitch”)
-it is not okay to refuse to agree with somebody, over and over and over again (”angry bitch”)…
-it is not okay to use your physical strength (if you have it) to set physical boundaries (”dyke bitch”)
-it is not okay to raise your voice (”shrill bitch”)…

If we teach women that there are only certain ways they may acceptably behave, we should not be surprised when they behave in those ways.

And we should not be surprised when they behave these ways during attempted or completed rapes.

I've been noticing how in the Sotomayor hearings, some Senators appear to assume that the point of view of a white, male nominee is the one that is culturally unbiased - it is the neutral, normal outlook. Anyone even aware of another view is automatically suspect.

Ethnic and gender privilege are dependent upon those who hold them steadfastly refusing to acknowledge that they're demanding more of others than of themselves. The one with the least power must be the one with the problem, for every other alternative feels inexpressibly incorrect. Every other alternative points to inequity and, if you're in power, denying inequity may be the only way to keep yourself powerful.

I've been noticing how in the Sotomayor hearings, some Senators appear to assume that the point of view of a white, male nominee is the one that is culturally unbiased - it is the neutral, normal outlook. Anyone even aware of another view is automatically suspect.

Nailed it on one Masbury. It is called privilege.

Good clip, Lexica.

Yes, an excellent clip. We are going to have to start teaching our daughters to speak up and out. I thought I had taught my daughter that but I was wrong. Hopefully my granddaughter will listen.