Emotional Self Harm


	Emotional Self Harm

abailart

4-27-2008 3:08 AM

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maturity, feelings, emotional intelligence

abailart says:

So don't give in to Clipmarks addiction!

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4-27-2008 3:22 AM

Aribeth

So don't give in to Clipmarks addiction!

Easier said than done.

4-27-2008 3:25 AM

Deepti

So don't give in to Clipmarks addiction!

Too late!

4-27-2008 7:40 AM

skwirlinator

Too late a long time ago.

Which is more dangerous?
Procrastination
or
Complacency

4-27-2008 2:57 PM

bignosemousie

I think complacency.

4-27-2008 3:27 PM

abailart

"Those who succeed and do not push on to greater failure are the spiritual middle classers. Their stopping at success is the proof of their compromising insignificance. How pretty their dreams must have been! … Only through the unattainable does man achieve a hope worth living and dying for – and so attain himself ."
Eugene Oneill
1888-1953, American Dramatist, 1936 Nobel Laureate

4-27-2008 10:43 PM

rvnurse2b

complacency sometimes masquerades as procrastination.

4-28-2008 7:30 AM

skwirlinator

With procrastination you still care. With complacency you don't.

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