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POPSWhy some people are blind to abuse More: Please, please don't be any of the above. Become aware. If you can, do something to make yourself more knowledgable of the signs of child abuse. Do a search online. Learn more about how to stop child abuse. Ask a survivor of child abuse what you can do to help them feel valued and safe. Give your child a hug and tell them you love them. Tell them they can come to you to talk about anything.
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POPSI was raped, and I am standing up...because the worst thing you can do is pretend it doesn't happen
More: What could my friends have done differently? It doesn't matter. Rape doesn't single out the drunk nympho from the poor side of town. Any number of my friends could have been assaulted, and 1 in 3 of them will be by the time they leave college. Most won't report it, because reporting a rape or assault is humiliating. I would know. So stand up. Stand up for your sisters and mothers and brothers and sons. Stand up until our world changes the way it looks at assault survivors. We're not outcasts, suffering from some horrible disease that if you get too close, you'll catch it. We're your neighbors, your friends, your family members. Stand up for us, because the worst thing you can do is pretend it doesn't happen. US Department of Justice statistics say that 71% of rapes are committed by rapists who are known to their victims. 71% . It's not the guy in the dark alley you really need to worry about… it's the ones you don't think you need to worry about.
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POPSResearcher: article is "a flat, unambiguous, factually incorrect misrepresentation" of my findings More: “When I saw the article my heart completely sank, and it made me really angry, given how sensitive this subject is. To be making claims like the Telegraph did, in my name, places all the blame on women, which is not what we were doing at all. I just felt really angry about how wrong they’d got this study.” Since I started sniffing around, and Sophia complained, the Telegraph have quietly changed the online copy of the article, although there has been no formal correction, and in any case, it remains inaccurate. But there is a second, less obvious problem. Repeatedly, unpublished work – often of a highly speculative and eye-catching nature – is shepherded into newspapers by the press officers of the British Psychological Society, and other organisations. A rash of news coverage and popular speculation ensues, in a situation where nobody can read the academic work.
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POPSSome answers to "But why didn't she fight back?" More: If women are raised being told…that: -it is not okay to set solid and distinct boundaries and reinforce them immediately and dramatically when crossed (”mean bitch”) -it is not okay to appear distraught or emotional (”crazy bitch”) -it is not okay to make personal decisions that the adults or other peers in your life do not agree with, and it is not okay to refuse to explain those decisions to others (”stuck-up bitch”) -it is not okay to refuse to agree with somebody, over and over and over again (”angry bitch”)… -it is not okay to use your physical strength (if you have it) to set physical boundaries (”dyke bitch”) -it is not okay to raise your voice (”shrill bitch”)… If we teach women that there are only certain ways they may acceptably behave, we should not be surprised when they behave in those ways. And we should not be surprised when they behave these ways during attempted or completed rapes.
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POPSphoto gallery: Flying dogs There were a couple I didn't clip, because (IMO) in a gallery like this, Photoshop is cheating. Click through if you want to see those.
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