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POPSAnorexia: Whose Fault Is It? What do you think? I'm kind of on both sides of the argument, that it's a combination of nurture and nature. I was raised by a mother who was obsessed with her weight and who would regularly tell me I was fat and that was when I was pushing 120! I had boyfriends who considered me fat at 130. I toyed with binging and purging, but being a Type A personality, it made me feel out of control. I decided that I would have to find other ways to keep my weight down that didn't include doing anything gross to myself or causing myself pain (I had severe gall stones, but didn't know until years later). Now I am a healthy but plump 170 (I have three kids after all), and I actually get a lot of compliments on how I look. I find ways to enhance my assets and hide my flaws and complement those things I do like about myself. I do worry about my weight getting worse, so I maintain habits that control/lower my weight, but I don't starve myself.